I am so sick of nasty ass guys (read: CREEPERS). I've said it once, and I'll say it a million times, creepers are fucking annoying and I'm so over being single.
Yesterday, I went to my happy place: Barnes and Noble. I love going there. I can literally wander around for hours and not get bored. Yesterday was no exception.
I was walking around, not really looking for anything specific and I felt a pair of eyes on me. A little uneasy, I kept walking and stopping every few minutes to check out a book. A minute later, I knew I was being followed. I see a guy a few feet behind me, stopping every time I stopped.
Dude, are you serious?
I headed over to the womens studies section, sure that he wouldn't follow me there.
Wrong.
He did.
Finally, I hear him say, "Excuse me?"
"What?" I asked angrily. Don't mess with me when I'm at Barnes and Noble.
"I just wanted to introduce myself. Your so gorgeous and I can't take my eyes off of you," he said.
ARE. YOU. FUCKING. KIDDING. ME.
Incredulous, I stared blankly back at him. He continued to ask me questions about where I'm from, how frequently I come to the store, what my favorite book is...All the while, I'm clearly ignoring him, not listening, and still looking at books. Luckily, in my angry pacing, I landed in front of the cultural studies section and grabbed a Post Secret book.
I said, "Nice to meet you," and quickly walked away.
Now, come on! That is not cute in any way. I don't want to be hit on wearing leggings, a hoodie, Northface, my hair thrown in a bun on the top of my head and wearing glasses at Barnes and Noble on a Friday morning.
Please don't try to tell me it's flattering and it was a compliment. I didn't feel flattered at all, the way he was eye-ing me. I felt violated. And at my happy place! The rest of my time there, I was peeking around aisles trying to ensure that Mr. Creeper and I wouldn't bump into each other.
I realize this didn't happen because I'm a single girl. I know the same thing probably would have happened even if I was still with The Ex. But, if I was with The Ex, I would have laughed it off and called him to complain about it. And, I probably would have done it loudly so the creeper would hear. Somehow, being single and having this happen just sort of twisted the knife a little bit more...
So, WTF is this guy thinking? Does he think he's going to find himself a hot Friday night date perusing the aisles of a bookstore?
Not with this classy girl, he isn't.
*Oh, and by the way, I'm obsessed with Post Secret, and when I was thumbing through the book, a secret written on a receipt fell out of the book. Someone had been standing there like me thumbing through, and left their secret. I felt so inspired that I left one of my own! I might start leaving my secrets all over the place. It's very freeing to put words on actual paper, and leaving them for others to find*
Saturday, January 17, 2009
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Barnes and Noble is my happy place too! I have yet to encounter a creeper of that magnitude at my neighborhood bookstore (yet), but I hate when other people talk to you while you're looking for books. You come there to be quiet, and find something new and exciting, I don't want to be asked about The DaVinci Code, I just want to look at books in silence.
oh and I thought Mamma Mia was okay. Pierce Brosnan cannot sing, but I love Meryl!
thanks for the nice chat! really made my night! if you ever decide to come over to the west coast- go to powells! you need a map to navigate the place! i could live there! The one downtown is enormous. I go to the one closer to me and I love it! I'll go sometimes to burn a whole day!
i hope you have a wonderful weekend!
Oh my goodness - I just don't get some people! Especially when you were obviously ignoring him. Ahhhhh... well I guess you can try WAY DEEP DOWN and take it as a compliment.... and my LORD PEOPLE give this woman here happy place!!!!!!!
{I will have to look into that book btw}
I love Barnes & Noble, however was very disappointment today when I went. (I was having a bad day, I had to blame it on something) hehe, I'm glad the creeper didn't follow you home. Jay was genuinly worried. He was like "OMG does she have mace?"
hehe
xoxo
yay i love postsecret! i just got one of the books for christmas :)
also, i know the whole creepy-guy thing sucks, but GET USED TO IT if you're going to italy! guys are so open and forward and blunt and agressive in europe, and especially in italy. i got whistled at on the streets when i was 18 and with my parents. also, some guy grabbed my ass walking in the middle of the day in madrid. it's just the norm there and you can't freak out. i hate to say it, but you're in for it worse than i am since you're blond. sorry dear :( haha but you'll still have a blast i'm sure!
I competely understand! There is nothing cute about idiots who can't take a hint!
I tooooootally know how you feel. I hate that. Granted, half of you wants to feel flattered because they're "hitting" on you but the other half wants you to tell them to fuck off and leave you alone. Haha. Sometimes, I can't even grocery shop without having to tell some creep to get lost. Men, I swear.
What the heck? I mean, it's one thing to just say hello and feel out the situation or whatever. But, this guy follows you around the store? C'mon, man! Get the hint!
I agree: B&N = loveee. :)
Waiting for a metro train is where I tend to have the most experience with creepers.
Seriously...being in your
40's...and staring longingly at every young girl, attempting to make conversation, and asking thier names is very creepy. Ew.
Hopefully this won't happen to you again!
Jeepers Creepers! :)
Just for fun.. under what circumstances, and with what tactics would you LIKE to be hit on? What could a prospective guy do to make you giggle and think of the possibility of a date?
I love bookstores, I could spend hours in them :) Though I've never been hit on in a bookstore. Someone just following you and using such a cheesy pick up line, uggggh!
ewww I hate creepers! Especially when they intrude on your happy place. When are guys going to get a clue??
men never cease to amaze me, really. in south jersey, i swear... they lose all of their social skills in the winter and then as soon as the weather gets warm and people start showing up? there like a bunch of retarded kindergartners.
Come get my award!! Your sense of humour would make THE best list for it. :)
eeeeeeew. i hate creepers. i've had my fair share of them, too, and they tend to just ruin an entire day, don't they. ugh. shudder.
good news, though! i've nominated you for an award! visit me here for more details:
http://courtney903.blogspot.com/2009/01/when-life-gives-you-lemons.html
Any bookstore is my happy place, too, and it sucks when someone follows you around there. Ugh. I feel you on that one. Ever since I moved to MS, the frequency I have gotten hit on has tripled, and it's absolutely ridiculous. I have a boyfriend. And it's annoying when some guy singles you out to tell you that he thinks you are gorgeous. Sure, it's a compliment, but it gets old really fast.
Okay, Okay, maybe not so flattering. I had a creeper not too long ago too, so I can totally understand. I've been meaning to write about him for a while, so keep your eyes peeled!
Moral of the story - guys are weird.
Do you come here often? Just kidding.
I love going to Barnes and Nobles - Newbury Comics, a music store in Boston is another good place for me too.
That is creepy about that guy. It's funny, I have been with my guy for like 9 years (you can gasp it's okay that is so long!) and you're right, I not only would have laughed in that situation, I would have enjoyed it and then I would have went home and told my boy what happened excitedly. I love living these moments vicariously.
Hahaha. Good story. By the way, West Chester PA blogger here.
i know you said not to tell you this, but as a girl who has never once in her entire 26 years been hit on, i would have taken it as a huge compliment. yeah, you don't think you were looking your best (isn't it awesome though that you were hit on when you thought you weren't at your hottest?? i mean, you HAVE to see how that's a compliment!). yeah, he probably shouldn't have been essentially stalking you the way he was. yeah, b&n is your happy place (mine too!!). but guys aren't perfect, and i'm sure it took a lot for him to speak up.
I once got hit on at a corner store by a park ranger who asked me if I "had ever tried this (him holding up the bottle) smoothie?" I was super hungry and just wanted to get my turkey sandwich and go. Men have no idea how to approach women, which is why I always tend to make the first move ;)
I am so in love with post secret too. I am going to start leaving secrets I think. that is such a great idea.
I've was creeped by an old homeless man once. So I completely understand. At least you found a PostSecret book. I have all 4 - very addicted.
A weirdo hugged me the other day. It was so beyond crazy. He was like can I come home with you pretty girl? I was like um please don't touch me!
When will guys learn??
he might be right about you being beautiful *wink* but seriously, book store? following you too? that guy is really a creep.
b&n is like candyland for kids. i go in and am overwhlemed and dont know where to start and just can be there for hours. creepy dude is so ridiculous and shouldnt be allowed to make such a holy place dirty lol i hate when guys dont take a hint.
Some men have no shame. You did the right thing. It sounds like he was really creepy and I wouldn't have liked it either.
I love the Post Secret books. Some of the things people confess are either hilarious, scary or sad.
Ok, I'm going to put one in for the the men here consiering there's a massive representation at the moment:)
Sure I agree that it's fucking annoying when that kind of thing happens, and when it happens to my girlfriend I get mighty upset.
but consider how much courage it probably took him to come up and talk to you. He might not have done it in the least creepy way but you go try walk up to a guy in a mall and tell him he's gorgeous.
Also, take the compliment. Sure it was creepy but if someone tells you you're pretty in leggings and a hoody imagine what people think when you're all dressed up:)
The following thing was wierd though.
I LOVE Postsecret! And the fact that a secret fell out of your book? AMAZING. The fact that you put in one of your own? Even more amazing!
I must get on doing that, too!
oh creepers. I had an experience this weekend, involving a cast off from I Love NY...yes, it was awesome.
Did you see the secret recently about leaving encouraging post its in library books? I thought it was a sweet idea and started doing it too. I am obsessed with Post Secret!
I can't say I fully agree with the not enjoying being hit on; I enjoy it, I like the compliments, but you are right in there being a time and a place. Sometimes it's nice, other times it's uncomfortable. Depends on my mood, and whether or not the guy can't take the hint that while the complimentary gesture is appreciated, he needs to buzz off!
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